The idea of taking care of yourself versus wishing for something different.
When you have the intention of taking care of yourself, it’s out of love. It feels good. Your movements or care-taking practices are centered around making sure that you are and feel supported to enjoy your life… so you can move, breathe, feel, and adapt throughout your day.
When you approach wellness practices from the perspective of wishing you were or had something different, there’s a certain amount of stress and pressure. You’re doing something so you can be different–which means if you aren’t different yet, you haven’t “gotten there” yet. Your actions have still not led to accomplishment. Until you are different, everything feels somewhat empty. Until you are different, everything is for the sake of an image, or a word. The enjoyment is taken out of the process–difficult times become setbacks, instead of opportunities to learn more about something or take care of yourself better, or feedback as to how you didn’t take care of and honor yourself fully. It becomes about the goal, rather than the journey. Unfortunately, it is unlikely that when you get there, you’ll recognize it or be satisfied with it. You’ve developed and become attached to the pattern of never being satisfied… of having pressure on yourself… of expecting something more, something different, something better. Unless you consciously become aware of and decide to change the pattern, you’ll likely remain there.
So, today, when doing your wellness practices, or even just when living your day… enjoy taking care of yourself. Enjoy honoring yourself. Enjoy adding to your day, this time in your life, this activity… Allow difficulties to come up, and appreciate the feedback or the knowledge you gain. And always, appreciate the time you take to take care of yourself. What a wonderful thing to do.
I find that when people approach wellness, bodywork, or their horses in this way… in light of taking care of and honoring, they get so much more out of everything. They absorb more, feel more, and grow more. They let go of more, and find more calm. They gain more from their challenges and their enjoyments. Because they’re here. They’re present. And they’re coming from a place of love.
I would like to add to this that I have nothing against goals–in fact, I think goals are wonderful for keeping yourself on track (so long as they’re adaptable, of course). While goals are not bad, I still think it’s nice to keep a primary intention of taking care of yourself or your horse, and then making secondary goals around that intention.